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I know that I have said this a million times, along with others in this class, but I can’t help feeling it again. Chapter 9 starts out with lighting a spark and all I can think about is being a Christian. Being an example to others and sparking that light in them with everything that we do. We are called to be generous, like the 50 cents story. I really do enjoy this book but also find it funny that it portrays a lot of the same characteristics that we should be living already. I wonder how many people read this book and never make that connection. I have found that lighting this spark in my students, or letting them light a spark in my life makes all of the difference between an average class and breaking through to some real connections being made.
In chapter 10 the author talks about being the board. But what it really sounds like is learning how to forgive and have grace. In the example of the driver, the druken driver will get consequences according to the law, but as the victim, getting upset and blaming them completely also hurts yourself. If you dwell on it then you lose control of your own emotions, reactions, and mind. It is better to forgive and learn how to move forward with accepting the here and now, as mentioned in an earlier chapter. I think that this is a good idea for teachers. There are many times where a student has known exactly what buttons to push in order to get me to my limit. While what they are doing is wrong, if I react in pointing fingers and blaming them for the situation, I am only giving them what they want, a reaction. It is better for me to remember that they are students and in this preconceived notion, sometimes the teacher is the enemy and their teenage emotions get the best of them. One thing that I am not sure the author makes extremely clear is that this does not mean that they are not to receive consequences; it is more a conscious choice on how to react and deal with emotions. This also goes in line with Rule number 6, don’t take yourself so seriously. As a teacher I can’t get so worked up if a kid doesn’t listen to me, I can’t freak out. Or according to the bible, don’t throw your pearls before swine. If they aren’t in a place to receive instruction then I am just wasting energy and emotions freaking out about it.
This story of the teacher shaving her head in order to help the girl with cancer reminded me of Adam Sandler peeing his pants to make the elementary school student feel ok in Billy Madison. Changing the framework takes courage and belief that you are doing it in order to better the mindset of others and change their framework as well. I really like that one of the steps for this is to figure out what is on track and what is off track. Too often people have great dreams and then they don’t focus on them when they start executing them. At my school district this happens often and there comes a point where people stop believing in the ideas even if they are good because they never get completed. A vision with specific goals is so important to this cause.
Chapter 12 really brings together a lot of different aspects of this book. The biggest thing is to overcome the fear that is constructed in our minds so that we can tell the WE story together. Teaching in a school that is very racially diverse I deal with this issue often. I can’t count how many times I have had to mediate issues that have to do with different races. The fact that the issues have nothing to do with specific people never seems to dawn on them until after a fight or argument has broken out. The examples that the author gives about the marriage and the job raise are perfect examples of how to change into a WE story. This is a technique I often have to use with my students especially when it comes to their grades or lack of homework. I have to remind them that I want them to pass as well and together we can come up with goals for US to get them to pass. I want them to know that it is a team effort. This is definitely not one of the easiest stories or conversations to have, so it is important to not spiral downward.
Thanks so much for sharing your summary of the reading and where it reaches you. Grace, forgiveness, having a sense of humor and not taking oneself too seriously is so important in life and in the classroom. I'm glad that the book has spoken to you.
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ReplyDeleteI also took away the part about grace and forgiveness, it also reminded me not to take anything personally. I do not usually take myself too seriously, but others see that as that I am not serious. That is a fine line in my work place, especially with my boss who critiques every word that comes out of my mouth no matter who is watching. I would love to gift him the Art of Possibilities!
Sonja
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DeleteI really appreciate the many analogies in this book as it also helps me understand the concepts. With this book I changed my cold call requests for teachers from do you want to make a video to I have a few examples of how others have contributed and was wondering if you would like to join us in showcasing your students. This seems to make it a WE thing, like you stated with your students. It helps with the difficult conversations as you also mentioned.
Sonja
Jess,
ReplyDeleteI really love your interpretation of "Being the Board." I struggled a bit with this chapter but after reading your thoughts, it all clicked for me. The idea of grace is a powerful concept and something that can be quiet overwhelming for me at times. Thanks for helping me to gain a deeper understanding of that chapter!
I also really like the way you have used (and continue to use) the WE story in your classroom. I can see how that could be a game changer when dealing with the issues that you are dealing with on a daily basis. I also like how you use it in connection with getting better grades... My one question is, could the story be "how we can come up with goals to get US to pass"? Just a thought...
Jess,
ReplyDeleteJust want to say that you did a great job summarizing this book. I can see that you really considered all of the takes in to. Nice Job. I agree that teaching takes tons of grace and forgiveness. I find that my kids forgive me all of the time. I can remember the teachers that I had that were forgiving. They were the ones that made the biggest impressions on me.
I agree with so much of what you wrote here Jess and you too Greg!
DeleteJess - where you stated about forgiving - especially the students who push our buttons. I really want to print that out and pass it around to a few teachers I know, some still hold grudges years after the student is gone. It's sad that they forget these are children who are learning, adapting, and soaking in how we ourselves handle each situation. We are the only source of love or parental support that some of these students will ever see!!